Oh, Bea, I'm so sorry! I can not understand why people do the things they do, but I've found that despite all the education you try to give people on this stuff if they've never expereinced it they likely won't be considerate of it when they are beaming with their own good news. I won't say they're all like that, but the good ones are few and far between.

Oh Bea, how upsetting!
Hugs to you both.

Oh Bea.

I am so sorry for both you AND Mr. Bea.

*hug*

I am sad and angry for you...I am so sorry for the insensitivity of others...

Bea that is just awful, on all accounts. I am so sorry to both you and Mr. Bea.

Oh, no. Oh, no.

It's especially upsetting since you've given them an opportunity NOT to be inconsiderate, and it was ignored...

I'm so sorry.

Bea, i'm so sorry for you and Mr. Bea.
humanity never ceases to amaze me, and not in a positive way.

Oh no. Peple can be so ridiculously insensitive!!

I am so sorry...

I'm so sorry

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry for their insensitivity.

Yeah, this one is in the unforgivable category IMHO. If they have the opportunity to be considerate and don't bother, well hell, I just don't understand that.

I'm so sorry.

Some people are just purely selfish.
They just don't give a shit about others.

Sigh, that's so sad.

That's just awful, I'm so sorry... I have come to the conclusion that there is a rather large percentage of the population that is just plain stupid

I'm so sorry Bea. That's the last thing he needs to see at the last moment he needs to see it. I wish she took the time to read your blog, I'm sure it took alot to even offer it up to her and all for what? Plain insensitive of her. I'm sorry x

Patience is so right. There are many people who are just plain stupid.

I am sorry you and Mr. Bea had to deal with this.

:(

People suck. And friends and family sucking are the worst. So sorry.

Oh Bea, it's so infuriating. Some people just don't get it, even if we try to make them understand. It's just exasperating to even try.

I'm so very very sorry. What an insensitive person.

I have nothing I can add that others haven't already said, but I can tell you that you are loved, and you are not alone.

I'm so sorry, Bea. The insensitivity of others will never cease to amaze...

Oh...Bea. I'm sitting here staring at the blinking cursor, but there just aren't words. So...very...sorry.

Oh bea, I'm so sorry, your poor husband. Some people don't deserve the luck they were born with.

This is just the pits...hope you are both ok.

Oh, Bea... I am only just catching up after a while. I am so sorry about your little boy. And having to go through a D&C. And the insensitive timing of a pregnancy announcement. I am so sad for you all. Hugs.

I'm so sorry. ((hugs))

I'm sorry Bea.
I don't understand people sometimes.
(((HUGS)))
Mel

Damn. This would have just about put me over the edge. Whatever happened to the human in humanity...this was definitely inhumane. So sorry you and your husband were sucker punched.

NOBODY gets IF till they've had it.
so sorry this had to happen to you.

Insensitivity is one thing. But DELIBERATE insensitivity is quite frankly, sabotage. It is so damaging to the soul when you have a close friend or family member who deliberately ignores your counsel when your counsel is given so that you can protect yourself and your own relationship. I am so sorry that you and Mr. had to deal with this. Like so many aspects of IF, it isn't fair. My heart goes out to you both.

I am so sorry Bea. Sending hugs to you and Mr. Bea.

Oh, Bea.
There are no words for how insensitive that was and I am so sorry for you and Mr Bea.

My hugs to you both

Bea, I'm so sorry you experienced such insensitivity. My wife and I have been trying to conceive for over a year now, and it's amazing some of the lame things people ask/say.

Just remember that it benefits NO ONE to keep that bottled inside. Seriously, if someone isn't nice to you, call them out. Put your own feelings first.

I'm still thinking about you Sweetie.

Bea, I'm so sorry. That just sucks.

it is true that they don't get it, but they could at least try. a "friend" who was invited to read mine once instead asked loudly and publicly if i was pregnant yet at a particularly down time. why couldn't she be bothered to have just checked first? it's a double whammy when on top of your own loss, you open yourself up to someone and they do not accept the offer.

I'm just always amazed at how clueless people are. I've mentioned before somewhere, how someone I know who *went through* all this crap, suffered so much, was finally blessed with a child, and STILL said to me, "this is going to work, I can FEEL it."

I don't know what she was feeling, but it wasn't my cycle working. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, Bea.

How upsetting, I am so sorry.

I think I have only seen my husband cry three times in our 11 years together, and it broke my heart each time.