I can't remember if speeches are customary at Christenings, but I'm going to make one anyway, because a lot of people have come up to me this morning to ask me about the cake.

First of all they want to know if it's our wedding cake, from all the way back in July 1999 - and yes it is so "ooh, gross, X-year-old cake, urgh" - I'll come back to that. Secondly people want to know why there's a piece missing. How intriguing - a missing piece.

Well, this morning I delivered the missing piece to Dr K's office. Dr K is our fertility specialist and we started seeing him in 2005. In 2006 we started IVF treatment, and I was in the unlucky 1-5% of patients who have the sort of complications that get you a month off work including ten days in hospital with tubes sticking out everywhere trying to decide if the side-effects of the morphine are worth enduring given that it only just takes the edge off the pain. If you like I can tell you all about it sometime.

Then we had to wait for some months until my body became reproductively capable again at which point we did technically get pregnant but only very very briefly. After that....

It was all pretty awful. Some studies have shown that infertility is almost as stressful as cancer, and other studies have shown it's worse. I really don't want to get into an argument about which is worse, and I'm not sure who's counting anyway - but my point is it was bad, and it's not just me saying it.

But it wasn't as bad as it could have been. Because it might not have worked, and it has. We would do it all again. Hell, we will be doing it all again. But anyway, you might be getting some idea here that I'm saying this for the sympathy or whatever, which I'm not.

The reason I'm telling you all this is simple. I want you people to eat some damn cake! And yes, it is X years old but you can pretty much suck it up, because if there's anyone in this room who wishes it wasn't quite so "mature" - then it's us. Nobody wishes that more than we do.

And I don't even care if you don't like fruit cake - I didn't like a single damn thing about IVF. So, you know - tough.

Here's what's going to happen. You're all going to be happy enough for us to eat the cake without complaint. Because I think we've earned it.

Hunky Dory?

Alright, well let's dig in.


10 Comments

StellaNova said...

I hate fruit cake, as a rule, but yours sounds like exactly the sort of cake that everyone should eat with you - even if just to show their support.

I'll have a slice, thanks.

Meg said...

Bea - I'll eat some; at least one bite anyway. PS Interior design by internet sounds intriguing - what did you have in mind??

Vee said...

I'll have some too, even though I should be dieting. :)

Bea said...

Thanks guys - a little piece is all I ask!

Meg... interior decorating... I was kind of making it up mid-comment, and so now I have to get something in mind. I didn't realise you'd be intrigued!

My starting point was more or less that we need to pretty up our interiors around here. We moved in about 6 months ago (or is that 8?) and... we've kind of been busy with other things. Getting very tired of getting nowhere with everything at the moment - I'm sure everyone here knows what I mean.

I'm crap at this sort of thing. I need advice. My creative friends all live out of town now.

So... if you really are interested... I guess I could post up pics of the current layout/interior of a room, set a budget, outline the basic "look" I'm trying to achieve, and see what you can do with it. Then, to add motivation, I would promise "after" pics as well.

I need advice on things like furniture layout to maximise use of space and storage solutions as well as basic decorating tips. But nothing as heavy duty as knocking out walls or putting in a new kitchen.

Maybe I should start an interior decorating blog?

Would anyone else be interested in chipping 2c worth in?

Bea

Bea said...

Chipping in 2c worth, I meant to say.

Meg said...

Oh Bea.. I don't know if I can handle having that on my conscience (having a serious spelling block here..is that how you spell it? Hmm.)What kind of house is it and what are you after? I don't know if I'm the best person to ask though... I like doing nesting things, but I usually go the op shop / garage sale / home-made route. (Oh, it's called eclectic vintage, I forgot.)

Bea said...

That's ok, Meg - I didn't seriously expect you to do my interior decorating for me! Although eclectic vintage is the look I'm trying to achieve.

I can do the eclectic, and I can do the vintage, but I just can't seem to get them to fit together into an "eclectic vintage" look. You know?

I'm still willing to toy if you're actually game... but absolutely no pressure - it was a throw-away line when I commented.

Bea

snowhite said...

Hi Bea,

I'll have some of your cake.

We have a similar cake - made by DH's grandmother, moved interstate, stored with friends while we worked overses, rescued from power cuts and failing fridge. Still waiting to be cut...

Vee said...

Bea, you have been tagged ! Check out my blog ....sorry :)

Vee said...

Bea, have you had your FET ? Where are you in your cycle ?

Looking forward to your link-istrated list :)

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