It's almost exactly a year since we were told ICSI was our only option for having a genetically-related child. I've spent the year whining, and moaning, and crying, and getting depressed, and feeding my highly-developed ability to stress over things which are a) unlikely to happen and b) not under my control anyway. And I don't regret a minute of it. I was completely justified, and I make absolutely no apologies. Nevertheless, I feel it's time to move on.

I just can't do 2006 all over again. It was, like, way hard, man. We will never, ever get our baby if I continue in that vein, because, put simply, I won't be able to continue at all.

So allow me for a moment to experiment with being a "good person". I don't want my fertility journey to be punctuated solely by inevitable failures, disappointments and setbacks. I want there to be moments of light, pockets of pride, days of sunshine. Crap like that. I am determined to go from weepy pussy-job to bitter old crone via vomitously perky gal. I am therefore setting myself this challenge: during our next year of fertility treatments - or whatever else may come - I'm going to perform Fifty Good Deeds In Celebration Of Life. And, to keep me honest, I will report them back to you.

This is also, apparently, a way of integrating into the local community - a staggering 15% of Singaporeans over fifteen years old are active volunteers . Come on - fifteen percent. That's pretty damned good for modern society.

Now, about the ads (if they're not here now, they're coming in a minute). I've put them there with the idea of donating any money to worthy causes. So go! Click! You know you want to.

Finally, if you have any requests or suggestions for Good Deeds you especially want done, you just go right ahead and leave them here. Then you can be a do-gooder by proxy. Now doesn't that sound fun?

Alrighty then.


10 Comments

Vee said...

Good on you Bea !

We are very much on the same wave length. I was telling Max I wanted to to some charity work or fund raising but then thought it probably wasn't a good idea at the moment with so much other stuff going on.

But I wanted to do something.....So today I bought a goat.
Yes a goat !

Have a look
www.usefulgifts.org

It does feel good to do something and be that "good person" and can recommend it to all.

Keep up the good work.

C said...

I love your idea! I've always felt that as much as infertility sucks, I have to pull some good things out of it or else I'm just wasting these years on misery and self-pity.

If I find any ideas for good things, I'll be sure to let you know.

Lut C. said...

You realize you risk not becoming a bitter old crone this way, I'm just saying.

I think it's a great idea, and might have to copy it.

Thalia said...

Hmm, good deeds - how about reducing your carbon emissions - turn the AC down a notch in Singapore, plant some trees to offset your emissions, buy a low emissions car (or ditch the car and take public transport, not sure what that's like in singapore but i'd guess it's pretty good), campaign for Kyoto to be adopted, recycle everything you use, buy locally grown food, etc etc etc. That's probably at least 10 good deeds for the planet right there...

serenity said...

Bea. We are in the SAME PLACE. I LOVE this post, especially the Bridget Jones-esq titling of your Good Deeds.

I need to think about this for a bit. I'll come up with good ideas for you, though...

My Reality said...

Fantastic Idea. I wish you much luck with your 50 good deeds. Maybe we can all do it. I would certainly make the world a better place.

The Town Criers said...

Damn girl, you're making me feel like a selfish slob. Thank you. Maybe this is what I need to kick me into motion.

Suz said...

I've clicked and I think that it's a wonderful idea.

Jessica said...

Awesome idea!

Nica said...

YOU ROCK. What a great idea. I hope that I can imitate you.

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