tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post262514320233619324..comments2023-08-26T01:04:43.031+10:00Comments on Infertile Fantasies: He knew me when... and the launch of our FAQBeahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11877513815828460269noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-35830914485095965492007-02-10T04:48:00.000+10:002007-02-10T04:48:00.000+10:00I love the FAQ! It's beautifully written.I love the FAQ! It's beautifully written.Ms. Perkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06923832430040384294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-88023901801229901872007-02-08T21:07:00.000+10:002007-02-08T21:07:00.000+10:00I love your FAQ site Bea (bee? ha ha, why not?). W...I love your FAQ site Bea (bee? ha ha, why not?). What an awesome idea. It would be so great to send people to somewhere like that who ask about it, because I find I just get all choked up, flustered, out of breath etc when I try to tell them about it. Its such a lot we want them to understand and its so hard to explain it over the table at a BBQ.JWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000365791603789983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-49556848190105911722007-02-08T07:26:00.000+10:002007-02-08T07:26:00.000+10:00Great post Bea, and what a brilliant idea!
You mu...Great post Bea, and what a brilliant idea!<br /><br />You must tell us what happens...<br /><br />Hopefully, it can stave off some of the 'why don't you just relax and it will happen' comments.<br /><br />:-)Watsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13200039011136695507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-15365731199805665612007-02-08T07:16:00.000+10:002007-02-08T07:16:00.000+10:00I love the FAQ thing! I'm out of the closet with f...I love the FAQ thing! I'm out of the closet with friends and family and people don't ask too many questions, but I might think of doing this too for such occassions! I'm the one that has been very free flowing with info and my husband seems to be pretty comfortable with talking about it as well. However, since we are dealing with a very private matter for guys (azoospermia) I have to be cautious about his feelings with who knows and who doesn't.Somewhat Ordinaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09701338805685025735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-63377116570444956892007-02-08T05:13:00.000+10:002007-02-08T05:13:00.000+10:00And I agree with Lut - compartmentalization works ...And I agree with Lut - compartmentalization works best for me. But everyone is different.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11168704988026789910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-35037185011904262972007-02-08T05:12:00.000+10:002007-02-08T05:12:00.000+10:00Brilliant! I love every word of it. Especially th...Brilliant! I love every word of it. Especially the part about the goat.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11168704988026789910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-1351700559032575092007-02-08T04:04:00.000+10:002007-02-08T04:04:00.000+10:00I love the idea! As Lut said in her post, "it's la...I love the idea! As Lut said in her post, "it's laying down the ground rules!" It saves us from the inconvenience of tediously explaining our ART.<br /><br />As far as Mr. Kite is concerned, he usually let's me decide who I want to invite in our closet. He was glad when I told members of his family. <br /> <br />Maybe you should ask Mr. Bea to start his own personal blog too. It's time we give Smarshyboy some company. :-)Baby Blueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09283845137728737575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-1842097217704002512007-02-08T03:46:00.001+10:002007-02-08T03:46:00.001+10:00Love, Love, Love the FAQ page. It was an absolute...Love, Love, Love the FAQ page. It was an absolutely genius idea.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-52849579648252858482007-02-08T03:46:00.000+10:002007-02-08T03:46:00.000+10:00I like the FAQ website. It's great.
I am pretty o...I like the FAQ website. It's great.<br /><br />I am pretty out of the closet with a lot of my friends, and I've always spoken openly about our IF with them. <br /><br />Most recently had dinner with a friend who seemed uncomfortable when I kept bringing it up, and now I have to watch what I say with her because she's a dear friend of mine. Either she's pregnant and nervous to tell me or she's just sick of hearing about it. *sigh*<br /><br />Right. Not my blog. A topic for mine on another day, I suppose.<br /><br />Anyway, do what you're most comfortable with. I have a hard time keeping secrets from the people I love - and IF seemed like one massive secret.Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17765237663006604157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-23697998901140278122007-02-08T03:17:00.000+10:002007-02-08T03:17:00.000+10:00I love the idea of an FAQ. Your husband sounds so ...I love the idea of an FAQ. Your husband sounds so sweet!GLouisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15146524259296901512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-42608719078155456202007-02-08T00:20:00.000+10:002007-02-08T00:20:00.000+10:00Bea, I think this is a very good idea, one suggest...Bea, I think this is a very good idea, one suggestion, maybe you should be a tiny bit more specific about the causes and/or tests you have been through. Since you are a vet, I would imagine you have a very well-educated group of friends and family who may understand the answers, and may even have gone through IF treatment as well, unbeknownst to you.<br />I understand why you may not want to be specific, I guess I just imagine that some people might be able to be more supportive, with more knowledge.<br />P.S. I'm adopted & I like your answers to "Why not just adopt?"Aureliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-21565093039919407762007-02-07T23:50:00.000+10:002007-02-07T23:50:00.000+10:00Bea - I think I would drop down dead if my DH ever...Bea - I think I would drop down dead if my DH ever told me he had spoke to anyone about IF! I think he is very closed off about it and still a bit embarrassed (with sperm issues, i think he feels it compromises his manhood :( )<br /><br />At least you don't have to deal with telling people now :)Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11597616293668220489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-50888725711528330382007-02-07T21:03:00.000+10:002007-02-07T21:03:00.000+10:00I can report that I have received 1 message so for...I can report that I have received 1 message so for on my baby-inbox. I was so pleased that my friend had remembered, positively tickled. <br /><br />I've actually contemplated starting a second blog for real-life friends and family. But I doubt it would do much good, since quite a portion is less computer-literate than I am. <br /><br />I don't agree with Mands, or Tertia for that matter. I believe in compartmentalization (of course, so did the engineers of the Titanic).<br />My blog is not for family and friends in real life. Would they be able to handle the bitterness, the black humor, the jealousy? What's the point of exposing them to it? To me, my blog is like being in Infertiles Anonymous. <br /><br />Very few people I know in real life know the details of our infertility. There is a price to pay, but so be it.Lut C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03893061829410958985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-74262632711682884592007-02-07T17:25:00.000+10:002007-02-07T17:25:00.000+10:00As Tertia Albertyn once said, you are either out o...As Tertia Albertyn once said, you are either out of closet, or not. You can't be both. So I set up my blog, and then broadcast it to everyone I knew. I added, "Don't ask me anything. If you want to know, read the blog." It's worked fabulously so far, and is a lot less stressful than trying to remember who knows and who doesn't!<br />At ladies night last night I spoke about it as openly as any other topic, and it was great. People need to know what a non-picnic this is.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02602506060731650727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-24941023251464094352007-02-07T16:33:00.000+10:002007-02-07T16:33:00.000+10:00Great post, Bea :-) As long as no one bugged me, i...Great post, Bea :-) As long as no one bugged me, it was nice that people knew what I was going through. Of course most didn't really <b>understand</b>, but at least it wasn't a big secret.<br /><br />Good for Mr Bea seeking support! I really admire my husband for the times he's gotten support.Rachel Inbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06605780418673759318noreply@blogger.com