tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post2126688390406115289..comments2023-08-26T01:04:43.031+10:00Comments on Infertile Fantasies: ListBeahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11877513815828460269noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-29636189898696417532010-11-16T04:09:30.464+10:002010-11-16T04:09:30.464+10:00Can I just say I loved this post? :) Especially ...Can I just say I loved this post? :) Especially the ending. <br /><br />A note on the "gift" from new sibling... We did a different version - we gave Jim a T-shirt for big brother and a matching one for little sister, but it came from my parents and we told him how happy they were for him to have his sister. It worked as a "gift", wasn't expensive, we worked in the "party" part of things, and it was a big hit with Jim. <br /><br />BTW - we kinda worked out the whole Birds/Bees thing organically. Our boy's version came out similar to yours', but didn't include a red cup or a rodent. HA! <br /><br />Interestingly enough, he saw my C-section scar and pronounced "So THAT'S where the Dr took the baby out!". Yeah, that was kinda freaky coming from a 2 3/4 year old, but it worked.Nearlydawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17132169507140828802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-46134952156236432352010-11-14T07:08:41.479+10:002010-11-14T07:08:41.479+10:00I'm totally guilty of not commenting. I usuall...I'm totally guilty of not commenting. I usually read through a feed reader and it's such a drag having to click over to the actual site to comment (hello, yes, I am LAZY). With that said, good luck with your move and I hope it's not as crazy and stressful as it sounds like it will be!No Minimomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11009737531863391592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-24931426468072290522010-11-14T06:24:31.250+10:002010-11-14T06:24:31.250+10:00The husband is thrilled to get a mention even thou...The husband is thrilled to get a mention even though he tells me he thinks blogging is silly.<br />We did the present thing for L who was almost 3 when Z was born a week before her birthday. She got a medical kit and some bracelets. Not sure it made any difference. Neither of them got anything when F was born due to his unscheduled early arrival and I can't say it hindered their bonding with the baby. In fact they were enamoured of him but not of me as I took an age to get out of the hospital. So if you can I advise getting back to normal asap at home. <br />Wow moving again and so soon. Sounds ....err ...fun?Betty Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02106396238018550134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-69003946545194766222010-11-13T19:56:53.485+10:002010-11-13T19:56:53.485+10:00I've not had much time to comment either. I ju...I've not had much time to comment either. I just happen to have a sleeping baby and toddler out with Daddy...<br /><br />I did go with the present thing. We asked B what he'd like from the baby (train tracks) and made a point of asking him what the baby was bringing for him. He LOVED the train tracks and totally accepted that the baby brought them for him. I accept that a gift from the baby is not entirely necessary though.<br /><br />However (a BIG however) what DID help massively was the thoughtful visitors who brought gifts for B as well as for his little sister. He's just cottoned on (probably during the last few weeks) about tearing open gifts and if all the pressies were for K, then it definitely would have been hard. <br /><br />As it is, these last few weeks have been the most difficult i've had with B. We did all the 'right' stuff, but you just can't fully prepare for this. He hit the terrible 2's just as he had to share his parents and it is still tough - on all of us. I found it very difficult not to be main parent as his Daddy had to do most of the caring whilst I recovered from the Csection and couldn't lift. <br /><br />We read the House in my Mummy book as well as Zaza's Baby Brother by Lucy Cousins. After i'd had K, i found an interesting section in 'What to Expect The First Year' about introducing siblings. I really recommend that. <br /><br />Having done full labour - to pushing - with no drugs, i'd go epidural all the way. It was MAJORLY painful! Perhaps hypno helps, but for my money, having done it both ways now, it's drugs for me! : )<br /><br />Sorry for the HUGE comment. Glad you're doing well. <br /><br />I also missed out on Child Benefit as a result of my delayed childbearing : ( That's set to vanish here fairly soon. <br /><br />Hope i'm not too gloom and doomy. Two is amazing.<br /><br />PxPortia Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08344574775614817555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-19989503844955443682010-11-12T23:37:17.353+10:002010-11-12T23:37:17.353+10:00I, too, like the idea of the birthday party, thoug...I, too, like the idea of the birthday party, though I'm not opposed to a gift, either. Honestly, I hadn't really thought of either, so they sound great. :)<br /><br />And happy to hear that things are well, though, yes, it does sound a BIT insane to move back to Singapore. However, from what I know of you, I'm fairly certain you can handle it.<br /><br />xoxoSerenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17765237663006604157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-13769324871283816952010-11-12T19:56:21.437+10:002010-11-12T19:56:21.437+10:00I love the idea of a birthday party, it's such...I love the idea of a birthday party, it's such a great idea and really makes so much more sense.<br /><br />Moving back o Singapore? WOW! I might have to come and visit you this time.<br /><br />How very annoying about the bonus's. Is the maternity leave replacing it?<br /> Did you miss out with PB too? I would be peeved.ColourYourWorldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01869194928164916281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-69355852975362839252010-11-12T14:02:06.843+10:002010-11-12T14:02:06.843+10:00I love the idea of the birthday party! you will mo...I love the idea of the birthday party! you will moove a few week after the baby is born? brave brave woman!!!!!! thanks for always leaving some words of encouragement on my blog. You are the best!Cibelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02361386515177047271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-20512737972681223932010-11-12T08:12:16.650+10:002010-11-12T08:12:16.650+10:00Well I guess there are plenty of ppl on both sides...Well I guess there are plenty of ppl on both sides of the 'gift from sibling' idea. I have to say we did it, Pob was too young to understand it but LOVED her present. For older children, like PB, well, shall we think of his advanced logic and pricing skills? Um, not so much? In his world it's still possible that babies turn into possums. So he will utterly accept that the present comes from the baby and will be delighted. And of course no one is pretending that by giving them a £10 gift you are buying them off. You are just helping them see the baby means them no harm. Nothing wrong with that.<br /><br />And of course he'll be fine if you don't do it, too.<br /><br />Best books we had re siblings were the two wordless books illustrated by annie kubler <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/My-New-Baby/dp/0859539741/ref=sr_1_11?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1289513220&sr=1-11" rel="nofollow"> here </a> and the companion one about the pre-birth bit. Both children still enjoy them now. I think the illustrations are particularly toddler-friendly, Pob loves her signing books, too.<br /><br />And the vintage book "101 things to do with a baby" which is fab if you can find a copy. <a href="http://www.librarything.com/work/42620" rel="nofollow"> here </a>Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-12557640822918855922010-11-12T06:31:58.839+10:002010-11-12T06:31:58.839+10:00Still doing good, I'm pleased to read.
Back ...Still doing good, I'm pleased to read. <br /><br />Back to Singapore?! That does sound a bit like madness. But you'll manage, I'm sure if you have to.Lut C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03893061829410958985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-88497227302588717802010-11-12T05:58:20.623+10:002010-11-12T05:58:20.623+10:00I'm with you on the gift "from" baby...I'm with you on the gift "from" baby to older sibling. All the little kids I've known have been happy with an "I'm the Big Brother/Big Sister" t-shirt and often wear it for days.Ellen K.http://www.southcitysadie.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-78969412342831635412010-11-12T05:34:51.205+10:002010-11-12T05:34:51.205+10:00I haven't been commenting either. Just gettin...I haven't been commenting either. Just getting caught up on my reader in time to go away for four days and be behind again...<br /><br />I hate moving. I can't imagine moving so far. I hope it goes smoothly. I'm not judging you, but if you ever hear me say something like that - well, have me committed immediately.BigP's Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07124157582246972372noreply@blogger.com