tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post8480420266718631784..comments2023-08-26T01:04:43.031+10:00Comments on Infertile Fantasies: Two out of five thingsBeahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11877513815828460269noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-62054127805710409122010-09-05T04:56:12.523+10:002010-09-05T04:56:12.523+10:00Catching up late after the holidays.
Back when I ...Catching up late after the holidays.<br /><br />Back when I had frozen embryos our options were between useing them, letting them die and donating to research. I went for using first and then research if there were any spare once we had finished. Turned out that most arrested post thaw do we used them up with one FET. In reality I might have kept on paying storage fees to avoid a decision if we were in your shoes.Betty Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02106396238018550134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-84382775699576266102010-08-17T05:52:35.334+10:002010-08-17T05:52:35.334+10:00Ooh, I know, an embryo raffle! I'd take a tick...Ooh, I know, an embryo raffle! I'd take a ticket, I'd take 10. <br />Too bad the law won't allow it. ;-)<br /><br />Not having to go back to ART, I understand that wish. I have no way of deluding myself that would work for us. Your situation is quite different. That said, rationally I think you're right - infertility is not behind you. <br /><br />In your shoes, I'd want to pay that storage fee, buy some time. <br />About the sketches, no idea though.Lut C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03893061829410958985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-41527671437835899502010-08-16T20:54:01.235+10:002010-08-16T20:54:01.235+10:00It's certainly is a tough decision to make. I ...It's certainly is a tough decision to make. I think I have one embryo left I am still waiting for the storage fee bill, which is why I say "think" I know I certainly wouldn't do a transfer but I am not sure what else I would do either. I suppose you have a bit of time to think about it or maybe not if you need to lock down on the house plans. I hope the two of you come to some agreemnColourYourWorldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01869194928164916281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-74235357563268099062010-08-16T10:50:53.296+10:002010-08-16T10:50:53.296+10:00It is such a difficult decision to make. Part of ...It is such a difficult decision to make. Part of me is glad we don't have embryos just sitting there so we don't have to make any choices. But that means an entirely fresh cycle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-41432956312605246322010-08-16T09:19:40.624+10:002010-08-16T09:19:40.624+10:00Sheila: Yes, I've heard adoption is an option ...Sheila: Yes, I've heard adoption is an option in some places. Unfortunately not available to us. But I encourage other couples to consider the option if it is available to them.<br /><br />It's the same with donation to science/research. The situation may change in the future for either of these, of course, but the last I heard this was not an option here. <br /><br />So our three options are anonymous donation where the recipient is selected for us off a years-long waiting list (I think we get to know if a child is born or not, and I imagine a child could track us down at 18+ one way or another), use them ourselves, or discard them entirely. Although we haven't decided entirely, we were more inclined towards one or other of the first two (depending on which of us you ask). <br /><br />Oh - a "sympathetic transfer" (at the wrong time of cycle) could also be done, but I tend to think of that as being exactly the same as discarding the embryos entirely. I can't for the life of me see why I'd go to the trouble and expense of doing that when I can let them thaw for free and without having any blood tests or other procedures. To be perfectly blunt, I never really understood the concept. (There, now I've redirected the flaming for you!) I have, of course, no problem with other couples taking this road, if it makes more sense to them than it does to me.<br /><br />BeaBeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11877513815828460269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-29170215221601941362010-08-16T07:30:35.656+10:002010-08-16T07:30:35.656+10:00With the preface that everyone has to do what'...With the preface that everyone has to do what's right for their family, if I were in your shoes, I'd be leaning towards Rachel's comment (no flaming here!). It seems wrong to say that I'd rather the embryos were donated to science than donated to an infertile couple, but it's true. I don't think I could live with the thought that there's a child in the world that's half mine. But I could live with the though that my embryos were being used to come up with cures for horrid diseases and possible saving many lives.No Minimomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11009737531863391592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-80469657590404968322010-08-16T05:50:44.310+10:002010-08-16T05:50:44.310+10:00I feel fortunate that we never made it to IVF, and...I feel fortunate that we never made it to IVF, and therefore when Mr S says, "I never want to do IF treatments again" and I say "I don't think it would be wise to ever be pregnant again.", it is an easier decision.<br /><br />I have heard of couples transferring them at the wrong time of a cycle due to religious beliefs, and though I don't think we could stomach donating our embryos, I think we could stomach just not using them.MrsSpockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10792687516201324640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-67205888007408817812010-08-16T04:33:45.801+10:002010-08-16T04:33:45.801+10:00It's tough be faced with the dilemma of what t...It's tough be faced with the dilemma of what to do with your extra embryos, espeically after enduring years of infertility treatments. I placed my 12 remaining embryos for adoption with another couple. I blog about it at PlacingParents.org. I too had OHSS and I had 3 children and our Adopting Mom is pregnant with one. You never know which ones will make it and there are many couples that would adopt your embryos, even if they don't think they'll become pregnant. It's all part of the infertility journey. I think we all going into it knowing that. I wish you the best as you continue your journey!<br /><br />SheilaSheilahttp://PlacingParents.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-10684123081932397702010-08-16T01:21:11.576+10:002010-08-16T01:21:11.576+10:00I'll probably get flamed, but I don't real...I'll probably get flamed, but I don't really see a problem with 'abandoning' them if you choose not to transfer them. Having done so and feeling not a tiny itsy-bitsy-bit of guilt about it, even nearly 9 years later, I can tell you that I'd have had far more issues with donating them then with just letting them thaw in their straws at some point. <br /><br />As we well know, very few embryos actually turn into babies. I think in total I had 19 or so transferred and I have 3 kids from that. And I was considered to have beat the odds...<br /><br />There are other things that people do with 'excess' embryos, like transferring them at the wrong time of the month, knowing that the chance they'll implant are minimal. And there's also donating them for research (as opposed to to possibly become babies). <br /><br />Basically, you have choices beyond transferring and donating...Rachel Inbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18211942924192779597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25184159.post-82471822566060713962010-08-16T00:53:51.915+10:002010-08-16T00:53:51.915+10:00I would say just using them at some point is the c...I would say just using them at some point is the cleanest answer. They work, they don't work, but the worst that can really happen is that they "work" and end in miscarriage or some variation.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05181924375187173030noreply@blogger.com